Lately my mother has been either supremely pleasant or supremely unpleasant. She'll laugh at everything or make jokes at me ... and then she'll get SO angry with me that she'll stop speaking to me for a couple of days.
She gets angry unreasonably, and then refuses to discuss the problem or why she's angry. My dad and I will ask her periodically throughout a day what the problem is, but we'll end up giving up because she says, "Oh, me? I don't have a problem! You probably have a problem!" And then it is all downhill from there. Nothing gets solved because, apparently, she has no problems.
Lately, she got really upset when she got wind of a camping trip that I was planning when, according to her, I was supposed to be preparing for my medical school interviews (which were to start in over a week from then). "Camping?! WHEN?! With WHO?! Are BOYS going?! How much?! Whose idea was it???"
"Uh ... mine ...?"
Jeez. When I tell her that it was my idea, she gets SO angry. This goes for planning parties, events, and even sleepovers since I was younger. If I was planning it, I was going to get some anger my way. My question is why does it matter who planned an event? It's not like I'm planning anything malicious or anything. It's not like I was planning to commit a murder, or anything ridiculous like that. No, just a sleepover. Or a party. Or a f*cking camping trip.
Sometimes, she has gotten unusually upset when I buy my own groceries. This one is strange. She seems to have let it go for the most part (but then again, I haven't bought my own groceries in a while, and I probably won't for a while because move-out is just around the corner). Anyway, she used to get upset at me for buying groceries when I could just ask her to buy them or she could just do all my cooking for me. This doesn't make me angry; this is just confusing. Seems strange to get worked up over groceries.
Perhaps she's upset because I am suddenly independent and I'm no longer her baby girl. That'd be cute, but still annoying. Perhaps she's upset because she's jealous that she did not have a social life like I do (and I'm not claiming to have a "real" social life, but any social life here is better than any social life she could have realistically made for herself in Sri Lanka ... yikes... that topic deserves a whole post to itself. I mean, seriously, guys don't interact with girls until COLLEGE. It's no wonder that guys are so shallow and that girls are regarded as sexual objects over there. UGH.), and that could be reasonable. Or maybe she's upset because she thinks I'm undermining her authority, and that would be kind of stupid because I'm almost 21 years old, so I hope I'm old enough to make decisions without Mommy's permission. Then again, I am technically financially supported by her ... but I'm still not making any ridiculously wasteful decisions or anything.
Other explanations: it's a brown thing, or it's a menopausal thing. Whatever it is, I'm not quite sure I like it (even though I still <3 my mom). I just want her to be reasonable, but perhaps that's too much to ask. Hahhahaha. Yargh.
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